Here’s to…

God, Journey

B.B. King's Restaraunt & Blues Club, Nashville, TN.

Going to a new city used to frighten me.  I can remember the anxiety I experienced as an eight year old boy riding to stay the night at my grandmother’s house just down the road from my house.   I can remember the fear of new places when we moved 15 miles to a new city when I was about 12.  The gut wrenching uneasiness when I moved 11 hours for college.  Going to a new city used to frighten me; to be honest it still does.  I spent today with my wife & her family shopping in Nashville, TN.  There was no fear, and it wasn’t just because I wasn’t the one driving.  It was an adventure instead of something to dread.  Granted this was a day trip an hour and  a half from where my wife’s family lives, but there was a time in the not so recent past when this wouldn’t have been an enjoyable day for me.

That said, I look forward to moving with my wife from the city where we’ve spent the majority of our adult life.  I know that while we’ll be driving the big ole van to the high plains we won’t really be the ones directing our life.  I know that it isn’t something to dread, but an adventure to be had.  I also know that adventures aren’t all fun; they’re usually full of trials, traps, misdirections and danger.  But they’re also fun because of who you go with, and I’ve got my best friend in the world to go with, and I have a God who is the best director in the universe.

Here’s to adventure.  Here’s to the High Plains.  Here’s to the King.

Happy New Year.


My Neglect.

God, Grace, Love

I’ve been experiencing some head-splitting migraines lately. The most recent episode was a couple of days ago. As  I was lying down on the couch, eyes closed, cold pack pressed to my neck, I began to hate the intolerable noise of the house. I kept wishing that it would just stop. Stop. STOP. But it didn’t.

I soon realized that I am too easily distracted and caught up in the normal noise of my life. It overwhelms me. It confuses me. It frustrates me. And I still choose to participate in the activities I think I “have” to do. Point-blank, I’ve neglected the most important thing in my life too many times. I’ve made it too easy.

God, forgive me for my tendencies to forget and neglect You.

You know, there’s nothing quite like a pounding pain to give you a wake-up call.

Basic Instinct


A short, personal commentary to the article below:

Three minutes is an awfully short amount of time, and I don’t say that as a lament knowing it further slims my chances, but rather I’m perplexed by the simplicity and duplicity over such a weighty matter. I wouldn’t necessarily consider it superficial to use these marks as a gauge to understanding one’s “initial” attractions, since these are arguably significant types of attractions. However, though three minutes may be enough time to appraise a checklist, it is never enough time to measure character.
It is tragic thing to find someone easy on the eyes, only to discover they are a burden on the heart.

Basic instinct: Women take just three minutes to make up their mind about Mr Right

By Daily Mail Reporter

They say you should never judge a book by its cover.

But when it comes to the opposite sex, it seems that’s exactly what women do.

It takes a woman just three minutes to make up her mind about whether she likes a man or not, a study has revealed.

The average female spends the time sizing up looks, physique and dress-sense as well as taking in scent, accent and eloquence of a potential suitor.

Women also quickly judge how he interacts with her friends and whether he is successful or ambitious.

Speed dating: A man has just three minutes to impress a woman before she makes up her mind about him based on looks and manners

It also emerged most women believe 180 seconds is long enough to gauge whether or not he is Mr Right, or Mr Wrong.

The study also found women rarely change their mind about a man after their initial reaction – and believe they are ‘always right’ in their assumptions and judgments.

The report which was commissioned among 3,000 adults to mark the release of Instinct, a new book by Ben Kay.

Kay said: ‘I think a lot of people believe in trusting their instincts when dating. It makes it seem more magical, like it’s coming from somewhere deeper.

‘But it’s surprising how quickly women make a decision. That’s barely enough time to finish a drink together.

‘It’s interesting that so many women trust their instincts and yet still give men the opportunity to change their minds.

‘Some men might think this is leading them on but I would imagine most women just want to give every bloke a fair shot.’

Researchers found women will quickly dismiss a man who they feel is ‘too cocky’ or ‘too needy’.

He will also be rejected if he isn’t nice to people, doesn’t appear to earn enough and if he has nothing in common with the woman.

The study also found most women trust their instincts and believe they came into play when they were playing attractive traits.

But despite this 88 per cent said their instincts were right and they should have trusted them.

Both men and women said they rely on their instincts when making decisions with

84 per cent admitting their instincts take precedence over everything else with important and life changing ones.

Forty five per cent said they often acted out of character when they met someone new and acted ‘crazy’ but that they trusted their instincts that they would be alright.

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The Lost Practice

Psychology, Virtue

Listening is difficult, and in a world of sound-bites virtuous listening is underdeveloped in many people’s lives.  It may not be a stretch to say that true listening is a lost practice.  Arguing without understanding occurs across the board, because its always easier to be “right” and be “righteously indignant” than to live a life of humility.  In the next 5 points I’ll try to give a picture of what virtuous listening is and is not.  Be on the lookout for a future post on practices to begin to develop this practice in your life.